A blog is a reservoir of creativity. Creativity cannot be tapped within one diameter. So, I am taking a step forward to write a poetry and express my ideas. Hope,it will be a utility for the readers.

Days teach me To always dream However it may never come true But that’s the best way To live life throughDays teach me To dream so high Never give up and always try Never let go or say goodbye Days teach me That when there is darkness For sure dawn is the next And when everything is so tiring For sure there would be time to rest Days teach me To always care for a friend Always be true and never pretend Always love with no end And the broken hearts try to mend Days teach me Never to feel the hate Always be confident and never hesitate Always believe in fate Days teach me That lovers meet & stay together And others are apart So if you are one who have been left behind Don’t cry and suffer Just search for a new start Days teach me The past I must forget And nothing needs my regret Days teach me To open my heart and forgive Cause that will help me to survive and live Days teach me To always offer my helping hand And never doubt in people when there is no proof And always try to understand Days teach me Not to be shy If I have done something wrong But to admit it and be proud that I have learned A lesson that will help me to be strong

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s been a long time that I have written something straight from the heart. Everyone is busy in pointing out and visualizing the social issues and untouched topics. Now that our MBA course has been over, its time to unveil the life after MBA, i.e. our real professional life.

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Every individual sees multiple horizons in life. At one stage he is a child, getting ready to learn the proximities of life, seeking love and tender of his/her parents. And at the very next stage he is a teenager, getting shaped by the influence of the societal values and ethics. At his last stage, but the most prominent one, he is an adult, an individual who is matured and intellectual. At his adulthood stage, a person is insatiable for knowledge and wealth. He’s fully determined towards achieving the goals of his life or more precisely “Life Goals”. An individual’s hunger for knowledge increases with the passage of time. Above all, its success that compels him to do anything, no matter whether it’s ethical or not.

Each one of us is walking on a path that is relatively innovative and new to follow. Its entirely different life as compared to what we have lived up till graduate and post-graduate level. The former life was intended towards learning and only learning. The prime agenda was to make our conceptual base comprehensible and solid. We were there to hone up our skills in our respective fields. What all we have inherited so far is all theoretical and useful, yet not practical.

The importance was practicality in life has always been over looked. People always fall prey for “short cuts”. They want to achieve “everything” without losing “anything”. But the crux of life is “Gain with Pain”. There should be a proper parity between the efforts and skills. A task cannot be performed with proficiently, if any of the two has been absent. A child makes efforts to identify his mother gradually as soon as he grows older. His continuous effort compels the mind to develop a skill that enables him to identify people. Similarly, learning is an ongoing and never ending process. Practical approach in life makes a person more matured than any one in his peer group. He learns a lot in the form of experience.

In the current context, life revolves around two main objects:-

· Money or

· Knowledge

The former one is the basic necessity of life and the latter is confined to a group of individuals only. The life after every professional course should be full of zeal to explore new worlds, to uncover new facts. I don’t advocate that money should be neglected in the initial phase of our journey. But it should be consider as a secondary phenomenon. The life would be easier then, with due respect to the gradual process of learning.

I would like to end my thought process now. But what I have articulated above is not an over night idea. It took me long time to identify the real worth of the professional verve.

So I took a long hiatus … but I’m back in full glory - so get out the red carpets and the welcoming committee. Har Har. Jokes apart though its ‘summer time’ guys - the good ol’ summers  - with us poor souls sweating it out in the sun and trying to make the most out of our summer training. And lets be frank though, al right? We ALL hate it - we all hate the drudgery of working our a** off (sometimes even without getting paid for it). Well I can be all nice - nice and say ‘hey the stipends don’t matter - we are here to LEARN!!’ But hey - its always nice to be appreciated for doing some work - and by that I don’t mean a pat on the back from my head in charge - I mean something green

            So I’m again sorta feeling depressed as my ‘wish list’ keeps on growing longer and my wallet keeps on getting lighter - hell the rate at which I’m going all I’m gonna be left with soon is visiting cards and unpaid bills !!

            But on a different note let’s talk about the summer training itself. We all barge in with our best smiles and innocent faces and tell our bosses ‘Sir we would like to add some value to the organization. How can we work on a project which will be beneficial to the organization??’

            The funny part is both of us know everything’s crap - WE want our certificate and an easy project. The BOSS wants to see you out of the organization before you do any harm (literally or figuratively).  AND the best part is that we still play along. He’ll say something like ‘Sure lad, you do xyz project and we’ll make sure we use it’. Yeah right!! You’ll use it sure enough - make a good bonfire for yourself, I’m sure!!

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            So that’s life - some of us are gonna survive - some will succeed - some will just buckle up under the pressure. But its gonna be an eventful 2 months - sure!!

 

But on a serious note guys - these are important times. It’s not a life and death situation but it’s extremely important for us to take these 2 months seriously. I’m not sure how many of you have work - ex from before - but for those who don’t (I joined my M.B.A. straight after graduation) I cannot over emphasize the importance of these 2 months.

            So be optimistic - do some value addition to yourselves - don’t bicker around and feel cheated when you see others working in better and bigger companies. Give it your best - MAKE those guys sit up and realize what you have contributed to the organization!!  And if things are so bad that you are reduced to the job of a data entry operator and have to work on excel 9 hours a day entering data - HeY - THINK ABOUT IT!!  With all experience you get in the form of an increased typing speed - you’ll surely get an excellent job of a typist at the time of final placements :D  

KEEP ROCKING GUYS !! ALL THE BEST!!

 

 

Caste has played a very important role in the success of Indian Democracy by mobilizing India’s mass electorate to participate in the election process effectively. Targeting casteism for political purpose has begun long before the introduction of adult franchise. It has so deeply penetrated in the Indian Politics that it not only shapes the political parties; but also their manifestoes for elections. The illiterates who are unknown about the political moves are organized by appealing to their caste sentiments by the    self-centered politicians.

The various groups like the Nairs, Christians and Ezhavas in Kerala; the Khammas and Reddys in Andhra; the Marathas and Mahars in Maharashtra; the Jats, Rajputs, Meenas, Brahmins, Gujars etc in Rajasthan determine the political scenario in these states to a great extent.

Caste has polarized the national politics and caste politics breed caste parties. Not a single party avowedly opposes casteism and is free from the influence of it. Even the national parties whether Congress or BJP while allocating tickets to the candidates and portfolios to the ministers, do a proper analysis of caste factor .Caste tends to determine electoral nominations and voting behaviors               now-a-days.

A major conundrum that has cropped up owing to caste politics is that many castes have started making numerous demands. Some want themselves to be categorized as OBCs and some want reservations, violating the representative principles envisaged under the democratic pattern of our country. A very bilious example is the Gujar agitation currently confronting Rajasthan. It has taken a great toll of innocent lives and has caused enormous destruction and damage to the National property.        This vicious circle has started spreading its circumference to entire nation which can prove extremely dreadful to the interest of our nation and democracy, still our learned and experienced leaders both from state and central government are feeling helpless and pity.   

 Who knows they actually capitalize on being one!!!

I always refer to newspapers as the ‘funny papers’: the articles nowadays are just so darn funny. Moreover these guys have a penchant for making even the bloodiest and gruesome of things seems hilarious - the way they print it. All these murders and stuff happening everyday - the way newspapers cover all that news is absolutely farcical - it’s amusing sometimes. 

And you know how ‘out of news’ the newspapers are when ‘firefighters getting cats out of trees’ are making headlines

 

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Right!! So I seem to be digressing (it’s a characteristic trait) - so let’s get back on track, shall we!! I was talking about the ‘funny papers’. I am always prompt to have a look at the papers early morning - it gives me my daily dose of laughter - and a few days back I wasn’t let down!! There was something I read which kept me chirpy the whole day. I won’t hold back any more; I know you are all dying with anticipation to know: so here is what it read like “California legalizes gay marriages”. Boy oh boy, I was gleeing with excitement. You might all say ‘Bah … big deal!!’ but it was a big deal!! And HOW!! At least to all the thousands and thousands of gays and lesbians (and these are just the ones we know - I am sure the actual figure is in millions ]out there who will now have public acceptance.

‘But will they really??’ is the question. Legalizing something is al right - MAKING society accept them is where the real REAL problem comes. And on a sensitive issue like this, you bet the society will have a hard time adjusting. It might change a few people’s opinion {emphasis on ‘might’} - but the society at large (my presumption) will not embrace it with open arms (and I can say this with conviction).

            Do remember that California became the second state after Massachusetts to legalize gay marriages - and it is legalized in countries like Belgium, South Africa (defies explanation) already. [and a few others who paid me not to mention their names]

 

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                            SO WHAT IS MY OPINION??

Aww… come on!! You were all waiting for this part, weren’t you?? So without further ado, let me quickly get on with what I feel!! I believe there is a pattern to life - there is a system to life!! We all are born; we live through childhood, adulthood, old age and eventually pass away into god’s abode. [hey I forgot ‘puberty' - my bad!!]  Anyhow, the point I am trying to make (very tentatively and cautiously) is that there is a pattern - nobody has defined it - but its how things are - and how it should always be - untouched!! Don’t go around defying conventions and breaking rules of life. I sincerely believe ‘to each his own’!! Hell it’s your life, you live once!! You wanna go marry the same gender (yuck) - al right!!  Go ahead (Ahem)!! But with the government legalizing it - it’s a tough one to digest - all I’ll say!!

 

So I won’t be taking names out here, but all you Darren Hayes and George Michael and Elton John fans out here - umm … I love them too - I DO!!

But remember - god made Adam and Eve - not Adam and Steve!!

Today we submitted the last group project of our MBA- I year course, with which formally our group work comes to an end. Although for all other groups, the group assignments are over but our group has one more assignment to be done for which we have volunteered on our own and it was me, who took it for the group with a trust on my group members for their cooperation and support in doing the assignment successfully.

In the starting of the course, we all were assigned groups and were asked to do various assignments with our designated group. My group members were Meenakshi Saluja, Ajay Verma, Deepak Khandelwal and Shivika Kapil. In the very beginning of our groupwork, I went through a problem because of which I don’t know how I behaved and went with my group members, so I will not make any comment on any of my group members or the kind of work they did.

Even though most parents deeply love their children, most children do not feel loved and cared for by their parents. This is the primary cause of most problems we see in our children today. It is also the primary cause of misbehavior in our precious ones.
Why do so many children feel unloved? The first reason is that children are behaviorally motivated, while adults, especially parents, are verbally oriented. With children, what we do carries far more weight than what we say. For example, the words “I love you” have little meaning to a child. Of course we should tell our children we love them, but this is simply not enough. We must transmit our love to children on their terms-behaviorally. We must show our love in our actions as well as with our words
If we took a piece of paper and wrote down all the ways to love a child behaviorally, we could fill only one page because the numbers of ways to love a child are limited. This is because behavior is simple. This is an important fact because it is far easier to love a child behaviorally. Language is quite complex and children do not understand the real meaning of “I love you” until they are fifteen, and even then they are just beginning to understand.

Genuine love is unconditional. Unconditional love is loving a child no matter what. No matter what the child looks like, no matter what his assets, liabilities handicap. No matter what we expect him to be, and most difficult, no matter how he acts. A wise parent loves the child behaviorally as continuously as possible. We cannot do this 100% of the time, but that should be our goal.

“LIFE IS ALL ABOUT RELATIVITY - IT’S NOT ABOUT HOW GOOD YOU ARE - ITS WHO YOU CHOOSE TO  COMPARE YOURSELF WITH “

                                                                                                                                :by somebody really great

I’ll be frank … I’ve never attended a motivational lecture (though my mum has given me a few - despite my strictest reservations), never read a motivational book (I have read some really sleazy ones, mind you - but never ever a motivational book), and obviously I’m not very intrinsically motivated in life. I am a really introspective guy. Lemme rephrase that actually … I am a really really introspective guy. Its so bad at times I can spend complete hours just thinking and re - thinking things over!! So mind you … if you’ll are looking at a pep - up talk or something … sorry guys but you’re looking down the wrong alley!! But yeah, if you all wanna find out how outrageously messed up my life is … read on sweetie … read on …

                So anyhow I was talking about my introspective nature. The damn thing’s like an addiction at times - sort of an obsession. Plus I am a really depressed individual  [just don't tell this to the guys who are gonna come to recruit me next autumn ... HA]  - I can get depressed over anything!! I’ll be all chirpy and cheerful and all of a sudden I’ll get into this hypothetical aura that the whole world around me is falling down or something … its kinda hard to explain unless you’ve gone through it yourself - but its not pretty -believe you, me!! It can really turn messy sometimes!!

                But hey hey I’m digressing !! Lemme get back on track. Yeah, so I was telling you about being depressed and stuff. Now just in case you’re wondering why the hell am I blabbering about the sordid details of my life - lemme justify myself - there is a point to all of this!! There is, really!!

                Every person feels depressed every now and then - its bound to happen. You can feel depressed about being compared to others, of being incompetent; of being incapable!! The whole point is that if you let it get to you, you can really really mess up your lives. Big time!!  Kurt Cobain (shame on you if you don’t know who he is - google him if you are not familiar) once said: “wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are“. Kinda makes sense, doesn’t   it? Its all about loving what you do - excelling yourself; not feeling depressed; and simply being happy in life.

 You can do it guys -remember,  nobody gives s**t about you - its your life - its how you live it!! If you’re depressed - shame on you !! Learn to be happy!! You live once guys - live it to the max

 

p.s.: oh and just in case you were wondering who wrote that really profound thing at the start of this article saying “LIFE IS ALL ABOUT RELATIVITY - blah blah blah’ … don’t rack your brains people - it was good ol’ ME - your resident agony aunt!!

Finally the day has arrived when i have cluttered up all my energy and converge all my thoughts to pen down something; and I am damn sure this would make one of my friends take a relieved sigh.

Its a special day and a special moment too and i am trying hard to write about someone who bear such dark imprints on my personality that i can hardly feel he is a life apart, i am talking about the man i have always admired and loved and prayed to be with — that’s my father. God has been especially kind to send him for me on April 11(that’s today the special day) few decades back. This is why i am devoting my first article to him.

I love him not because what he is, but because what i become when i am with him.

Almost all of us have heard of the word ‘Maya‘ ; and at once we get the feeling that the world is an illusion. But it is a simple statement of facts - what we are and what we see around us.

‘THIS WORLD HAS NO ABSOLUTE EXISTENCE’

What does this statement mean? It exists only in relation to my mind, to your mind. We see this world with 5 senses; but if we had another sense, we would see in it something more. If we had yet another sense, it would appear as something still different. It has therefore no real existence, nor can it be called non - existence, knowing that it exists. It is a mixture of existence and non existence.

And this is ‘Maya’

Lets take a case: A mother nurses her child with great care. All her soul, her life is in that child. The child grows up , becomes a man and perchance becomes a brute; kicks her and beats her every day. Yet the mother clings to the child. And when reason makes an attempt to wake up she covers it up with ideas of love; and how much so ever she may try, she cannot shake off the bondage she has for her child.

This is ‘Maya’

We all vie for the golden fleece. Everyone of us thinks it is theirs for the taking. Every reasonable man knows in his heart that he stands a minute, next to impossible chance of actually achieving it. Yet everyone struggles for it.

This is ‘Maya‘

Happiness is all that we seek for and all the things in which we see happiness are evanescent. Like moths hurling themselves against the flame, we all are hurling ourselves again and again into sense - pleasures - hoping to find satisfaction; each time with renewed vigor and energy till the point when we are crippled.

In one form or another we are all in Maya - the most difficult and intricate state of things to understand.

So is there no hope then? Are we supposed to accept the fact that we are all slaves of Maya? Is there no way out?

As every cloud has a silver lining, this problem has got a solution too - its just the way you look at things!! There is a being beyond all the manifestations of Maya - one who is superior to and independent of Maya.

- bring him nearer and nearer and nearer until you find that it was all the time ‘within you’ !!